It is unfortunate that serious adoption reformers and the general public who want to learn a new perspective must be subject to the content of this Blog.
I do not wish to be involved in bickering from natural family who found me and who refuse to leave me alone. If they, or any other user of this website, are upset over the content, the simple solution is to not read it.
Cyber-Bullying by contacting my former blog hosting’s Tech Support to complain about me, shutting down my two former blogs, and driving away traffic from my website http://forbiddenfamily.com/, and driving away book sales, are forms of malicious bullying and harassment.
I have had to endure many different types of bullying and harassment from various relatives who do not, and did not ever, approve of my reunion, or did not approve of my Letters to The Editor or paid Commentary in our local newspaper since 1976. The worst offenders have been and are my full blood sisters. They have individually, and together, sabotaged my growth as a person, as a writer, and as an adoption activist by putting me down, writing to adoption reform organizations as early as 1992 to say what an asshole I am, and, more recently, infiltrating other adoption reform blogs and websites to make sure they are heard. Now, they have their own blogs that are nothing but malicious character assassination, defamation and libel against me.
I understand that my three older sisters (ages are late fifties and early sixties) did not ever want me to be involved with adoption reform. They did not ever want me to write in newspapers about the event that separated us as children. And the very thing that they feared the most --- me writing and publishing the story of my life --- has come to pass. They have not prevented me from accomplishing my life's goal and that is angering them. I took great care in protecting their identities when writing the book. They are not identified. Even the photo that comprises the back cover does not give away their identities: the photo is blurred and words are printed over the photo. My book and its cover were carefully and thoroughly vetted by my own literary attorney as well as the legal department from my publisher.
The following blogs are written by my three full blood sisters, Ruth Sippel Pace (from Buffalo, New York), Gertrude (Gert) McQueen Sippel (from Watertown, New York), and Katherine (Kathy) Jean Sippel Inglis (from Liverpool, England). They read my website now, just have they have done to my other blogs. If they don't want me in their lives, they have no business reading my website. They are obsessed with me and are determined to bring me down.
I will not let that happen.
Publishing their full names here is not a problem as they initiated that themselves. I wrote my book with their identities concealed, but that doesn't matter as my sisters have gone public with their own names splashed on the Internet. They make themselves look bad with what they write.
As for public names, our names were made public first in our mother's death notice in 1956 in our local newspaper --- a fact that makes all arguments for privacy moot for anyone can look up this information if they want to. This even makes the point moot for sealing and falsifying my birth certificate --- a point I make in my book to further expose crimes committed against me by the government as my name was published in the newspaper along with the names of my direct blood kin, making sealing my records to protect anyone's identity a ridiculous and illogical action.
I am not writing in a back and forth, tit for tat, childish sibling quabble --- I am writing for adoption reform in my book and my website http://forbiddenfamily.com/. I want the legal right to my true birth certificate and I will fight to my death to achieve that goal. I am in this fight for all adoptees. It is the larger picture that is important for me. All my sisters want is to make a fool of me. They want to hurt me, my friends, my family and they are attacking professionals in the adoption reform movement.
I do not want nor need toxic people in my life. These people FOUND me when I was still in high school. They do not want to accept the responsibility for creating havoc in my life. It is their actions that made our reunion a negative one. Three against one. It is clear that they are ganging up on me. I never stood a chance. This is proof that separating siblings in the name of adoption is a terrible act against an existing family.
Done right, adoption search and reunion can be a positive healing experience. Done wrong, adoption search and reunion, as demonstrated in my book about what happened to me, my adoptive parents, my husband and my children, and what happened to my natural father and my siblings as a result of our mother's death and my adoption out of the family, can be a devastating process if handled inappropriately.
What my sisters fail to realize is this: I wrote my book to illustrate my life, not their lives, mine. I lived this reunion, met many people, developed relationships with many people outside of them. They are not my only family. They have hurt me tremendously. My book not only details what was done to me, but what I lived in various situations that does not include them. They are but a small part of this adoptee's life.
If you who are readers of this website want to read trash, go ahead.
If you want to read about my journey as an adoptee and adoption rights activist, then visit http://forbiddenfamily.com/ and read my book: Forbidden Family: A Half Orphan's Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism.
It's up to you who you believe.
Here are my sisters' blogs:
http://ruthsippelpace.wordpress.com/
Refuting a Book of Lies: Forbidden Family
what Joan Wheeler doesn't want us to do: expose her lies and tell the truth about us and our familyhttp://ruthsippelpace2.wordpress.com/
The Three Sippel Sisters – Genevieve's Daughters
our statements to and about our birth sister, Joan Mary Wheeler, born Doris Michol Sippel, author of Forbidden Family
http://chayelet.wordpress.com/
Chayelet's Blog
setting the record straightPERMANENT NOTICE TO AND REGARDING JOAN MARY WHEELER born as DORIS MICHOL SIPPEL
December 29, 2009 by chayelet~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
